No More Tears - Hope & Healing

It is human to grieve over things we have lost or left behind, but never lose site of what God has for you ahead. As a young man, I often heard people say “Pull it together. It’s going to be OK. Be strong! Time heals all wounds. It could be worse.” And the list of well intended words you don’t say to people who grieve goes on.

Grief and loss is real and I want to share with you that IT IS OK TO NOT BE OK!

If you’re the one who is grieving, the first impulse is to hide your grief and loss. This is a strange concept to many…..but the journey to healing includes giving yourself the freedom to experience grief. It hurts. It is painful. Sometimes it’s even ugly. But allowing yourself to express your painful feelings is actually healthy. Cry! Express it!

It’s understandable that you may want to push it aside and not relive the traumatic events that brought you emotional pain. However, when you avoid those painful thoughts, feelings, and memories, it can create more harm than good. Instead of helping you move toward healing, it may prolong and complicate your grief and trauma even more.

Allow yourself the experience of grieving. Instead of blocking your feelings or engaging in unhealthy behaviors to deal with the excess negative emotional energy, find support from those around you. Acknowledge your loss. Choose a friend, a pastor, a counselor, a support group such as the one we have at FCC. Find a safe place.

Spiritual truth: There is no safer place than in the arms of Christ. Let the tears come. Out of nowhere, the trauma catches us off guard. We wonder why the emotions are so real and raw. Let them come and let them be a reminder that God sees us. Let the tears flow. Our tears are a language God understands. Find comfort in Christ.

Revelation 21:4 “He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death’ or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.”